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Once you strip away the platitudes, a life of passion and purpose will always cost, as T.S. Eliot reminds us, ‘Not less than everything.’”

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Women and Qualifications

Elizabeth Gilbert’s perspective:

“Too many women still seem to believe that they are not allowed to put themselves forward at all, until both they and their work are perfect and beyond criticism.

Meanwhile, putting forth work that is far from perfect rarely stops men from participating in the global cultural conversation.

I like that feature in men — their absurd overconfidence, the way they will casually decide, ‘Well, I’m 41 percent qualified for this task, so give me the job!’

Yes, sometimes the results are ridiculous and disastrous, but sometimes, strangely enough, it works — a man who seems not ready for the task, not good enough for the task, somehow grows immediately into his potential through the wild leap of faith itself.” 

In other words, rise to the role you wish to perform.

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“Better to have a short life that is full of what you like doing than a long life spent in a miserable way,”

Alan Watts (a philosopher) says.

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Sail away from the safe harbor

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines, sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”

Mark Twain
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“Life is a condition alternating between excitation, destruction and unbalance, and reorganization, equilibrium and rest.”

-Kurt Goldstein

From this article on bodily resources vs demands.

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Barely learned

An excerpt from Everything You Thought You Knew About Learning Is Wrong:

Taking notes during class? Topic-focused study? A consistent learning environment? All are exactly opposite of the best strategies for learning.

I recently had the good fortune to interview Robert Bjork, the director of the UCLA Learning and Forgetting Lab, a distinguished professor of psychology, and a massively renowned expert on packing things in your brain in a way that keeps them from leaking out.

It turns out that everything I thought I knew about learning is wrong.


First, he told me, think about how you attack a pile of study material.
“People tend to try to learn in blocks,” Bjork said. “Mastering one thing before moving on to the next.”

Instead of doing that Bjork recommends interleaving.

The strategy suggest that

instead of spending an hour working on your tennis serve,

you mix in a range of skills like backhands, volleys, overhead smashes, and footwork.

“This creates a sense of difficulty,” Bjork said. “And people tend not to notice the immediate effects of learning.”

Instead of making an appreciable leap forward with your serving ability after a session of focused practice, interleaving forces you to make nearly imperceptible steps forward with many skills.

But over time, the sum of these small steps is much greater than the sum of the leaps you would have taken if you’d spent the same amount of time mastering each skill in its turn.

Bjork explains that successful interleaving allows you to “seat” each  skill among the others.

“If information is studied so that it can be interpreted in relation to other things in memory, learning is much more powerful,” he said.

There’s one caveat: Make sure the mini skills you interleave are related in some higher-order way. If you’re trying to learn tennis, you’d want to interleave serves, backhands, volleys, smashes, and footwork — not serves, synchronized swimming, European capitals, and programming in Java.

Similarly, studying in only one location is great as long as you’ll only be required to recall the information in the same location.

If you want information to be accessible outside your dorm room, or office, or nook on the second floor of the library, Bjork recommends varying your study location.

Interleaving and varying your study location will help whether you’re  mastering math skills, learning French, or trying to become a better
ballroom dancer.

A somewhat related phenomenon — the spacing effect, which was first described by Hermann Ebbinghaus in 1885 — will also help.

“If you study and then you wait, tests show that the longer you wait, the more you will have forgotten,” Bjork said.

But here’s the cool part: If you study, wait, and then study again, the longer the wait, the more you’ll have learned after this second study session.

Bjork explains it this way: “When we access things from our memory, we do more than reveal it’s there. It’s not like a playback.

What we retrieve becomes more retrievable in the future. Provided the retrieval succeeds, the more difficult and involved the retrieval, the more beneficial it is.”

You should space your study sessions so that the information you learned in the first session remains just barely retrievable.

Then, the more you have to work to pull it from the soup of your mind, the more this second study session will reinforce your learning. If you study again too soon, it’s too easy.

Along these lines, Bjork also recommends taking notes just after class, rather than during — forcing yourself to recall a lecture’s information is more effective than simply copying it from a blackboard. You have to work for it.

The more you work, the more you learn, and the more you learn, the more awesome you can become.

“Forget about forgetting,” said Bjork. “People tend to think that learning is building up something in your memory and that forgetting is losing the things you built. But in some respects the opposite is true.”

See, once you learn something, you never actually forget it. Do you remember your childhood best friend’s phone number? No? Well, Bjork showed that if you were reminded, you would retain it much more quickly and strongly than if you were asked to memorize a fresh seven-digit number.

So this old phone number is not forgotten — it lives somewhere in you — but recall can be a bit tricky. And while we count forgetting as the sworn enemy of learning, in some ways that’s wrong, too. The two live in a kind of symbiosis in which forgetting actually aids recall.

“Because humans have unlimited storage capacity, having total recall would be a mess,” said Bjork.

“Imagine you remembered all the phone numbers of all the houses you had ever lived in. When someone asks you your current phone number, you would have to sort it from this long list.”

Instead, we forget the old phone numbers, or at least bury them far beneath the ease of recall we gift to our current number.

What you thought were sworn enemies are more like distant collaborators.

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A reality-tunnel is kind of silly

“The only sensible goal, then is to try to build a reality-tunnel for next week that is bigger, funnier, sexier, more optimistic and generally less boring than any previous reality-tunnel. And once you have built that bigger, funnier, happier universe of thought, build a bigger and better one, for next month.”

— Robert Anton Wilson, Prometheus Rising

From here.
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The same man who wrote “… I want to be with those who know secret things or else alone.”

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Learning Russian for Russia’s women

смысл

“What does it mean?”

You ask when you encounter a new word that’s gibberish in your ear. After all, a word without meaning is, well, meaningless.

How on Earth do babies pick up words?

First, they listen. Not necessarily because they desire to. They don’t decide to pay attention or not, it’s more like they are hardwired to listen.

That “hardware” is called a language acquisition device.

Woman with a Fruit Basket, ca. 1820
Gardner Factory, Russian, Verbilki

Known as LAD.

It’s the theory that “all humans share a mechanism which allows us to comprehend, develop, and use language like no other animal”.

This instinctive mental capacity enables an infant to acquire and produce language.

Around three quarters of the babies in the world learn more than one language.


“They won’t realize that the words belong to different languages until they’re older.”

(Read more in this excellent book about language here: CRYSTAL, D. (2010). Learning how to understand. In A Little Book of Language (pp. 14-20). Yale University Press. Retrieved from http://www.jstor.org/stable/j.ctt1np8zv.5)

How do you use this information to learn Russian?

Milkmaid, ca. 1820, Gardner Factory, Russian, Verbilki

First, focus on the most common sounds, letters, and words.

As for words, don’t worry at the beginning about studying from a book or another source about how to classify “nouns” “prepositions” “verbs”, etc.

Try to let your brain work to classify them.

Before you read “Milkmaid” in the caption to the right did you look at the image and guess what it was before being told the answer?

As always, make sure to click on the links as they are decent resources.

Many of the links will take you to google translate so that you can hear the pronunciation of the word.

My plan is to hear foreign sounds and shout, whisper, sing them. At the least this is an entertaining option.

The most common word in the Russian language:

и

Sound

[ee]

Meaning

and, though

Examples:

1

Мальчик и девочка играют.

Pronounced: Mal’chik i devochka igrayut.

Sentence translation: A boy and a girl are playing.

2

Мы стояли и ждали.

Pronounced: My stoyali i zhdali.

Sentence translation: We stood and waited.

3

Я это и имею в виду.

Pronounced: YA eto i imeyu v vidu.

Sentence translation: That’s what I have in mind. / I mean it.

4

И как ты не понимаешь, что это интересно?

Pronounced: I kak ty ne ponimayesh’, chto eto interesno?

Sentence translation: How come you don’t understand that this is interesting?

5

Мы так и сделали.

Pronounced: My tak i sdelali.

Sentence translation: This is what we did / We did just that.

6

Я даже и не знаю.

Pronounced: YA dazhe i ne znayu.

Sentence translation: I do not even know.

7

Она и нам рассказала.

Pronounced: Ona i nam rasskazala.

Sentence translation: She told us too.

I’m tired.

Here’s a palate cleanser:

Russian Nun by J. Monstein, around 1865.
Digital image courtesy of the Getty’s Open Content Program.

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Hot, sunny, coolness in the shade

“A new background created without hope or joy, without feeling of permanence or without a conviction of its rightness. But inevitably beautiful.”

June 1936, Anais Nin

Senior and junior Morales

Un padre con su hijo.

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Lie back and think of pleasure

The closest whisper of wisdom I’ve heard is too simple and rings naive so I’m embarrassed to write about it. The idea is that you must learn to enjoy life in order to be happy. Specifically, you must fixate your appetite and gaze on pleasure.

Somewhere, the priest whose lap I sat on for my first confession is shaking his head.

Pleasure?

Smiling to myself

Pleasure exists in two handfuls of dark plump berries. It’s a frenzy of kisses on my cheeks and the surprise of finding sunflowers in another’s deep hazel eyes. It’s trembling in the same breath. It’s feeling known for who I am.

Most of us smile about “happy” and lock away “pleasure”. 

Arriving at “peak happiness” is an insurmountable mountain or a 6×6 rectangle below ground. But the poets have hope
especially for the truly miserable. For example, Kahlil Gibran wrote that “the deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain. We experience little genuine joy in part because we avoid the depths.

The two words, pleasure and happiness, are intimate partners. The philosopher Epicurus said, “pleasure is the beginning and the goal of a happy life.

So how to get from here to off – I mean, to there?

Laugh loudly and sniff deeply.

You can loosen bonds tying shame to joy by practicing indulging without regret. A little bit of pleasure mixed with a heap of shame is a witches’ brew that could spook your happiness to the farthest willow tree. Rather, study yourself as you savor a moment of indulgence.

Savor is code for “slow down, you frenetic human”. Give yourself permission to laugh all night with friends, to make love until you’re sore, to whistle an entire song to your very best ability.

Look around for sensuality and feast on it because the damn moment will pass like it always does. Differentiate between beauty and sensuality as well as between the marketing of beauty and the marketing of sensuality.

Sensuality is a gift: it’s pleasure plus your senses. The sensations you feel please you and what pleases you is feeling a thick blanket wrapped around your shoulders. Sensuality is a long cat stretch. You get the idea, of course, but act on it and literally feel sensuality out.

Beauty is found in the places you search. Sensuality, too, is discoverable.

Start drinking.

Unless your friends are awful people, you’ll sleep better at night after gathering round ye old bonfire. The point is to actively work to make friends. Your pets, even if they are as darling as my cat Delilah, do not count.

Spend time with your family if you don’t have any friends. I have to remind myself that if I have 15 minutes to kill then I also have 15 minutes to text, call, or spend with my loved ones. I strongly recommend seeing your favorite people face-to-face as often as possible.

If family’s not for you or you don’t have any then try to make conversation with strangers, which I admit is easier when you are meeting friends of friends. Once you firmly believe that you could safely spend 15 minutes with this new person in a second location, ask them to get coffee, see a movie with you, or invite them to an event nearby.

If you don’t like anyone you’ve ever met then please seriously reconsider your criteria for who can be friends with you. Side question: are you also a finicky eater?  Yes, you can have high standards, but sometimes you need to appreciate the humble potato. The solution is to be less picky and befriend weird and crazy people who are not afraid to make fun of you.

“That’s the wonderful thing about crazy people, you know? Is that they just have unlimited currency. The things they say mean nothing to them, but they mean everything to me.”

I know the trend right now is to cut people out of your life, but don’t drop your random friendship with the sassy woman that runs your neighborhood sushi restaurant or with that peppy older guy with the chihuahua who only ever says “hi! how you doin” or “long time no see!”

In his book On Friendship (page 5 of a Penguin 1991 copy), the philosopher Montaigne also recommends setting up a buffet of friends. He wrote that “in one friend one can love beauty; in another, effability; in another generosity; in another, a fatherly affection; in another, a brotherly one, and so on”.

In the same sentiment and on the same page Montaigne wrote, “the love of friends is a general universal warmth, temperate moreover and smooth, a warmth which is constant and at rest, all gentleness and evenness, having nothing sharp nor keel. What is more, sexual love is but a mad craving for something which escapes you.” Loneliness can be excruciating so please do not underestimate the role of friendship in your life.

And if you still cannot make friends then devote time to helping an animal or someone. You have many options; among them include tending to a neighborhood garden, volunteering at an animal shelter, or attending events put on by your local library.

There is some elegance in refusal.

Copy my little sister who practically invented the phrase, “it’s not for me” when she was a small child. She is an explorer who also knows exactly what doesn’t work for her. You want to experiment constantly first and then limit your options.

Live modestly by ignoring advertisements.

If you’re reading it, it’s for you. Ads are purposefully designed to reach target audiences and “advertising would not be so prevalent if we were not such susceptible creatures.

We want things when they are beautifully presented on walls and lose interest when they are ignored or not well spoken of.

We receive little encouragement to attend to modest gratifications.

Levels of consumption would be destroyed by greater self-awareness and appreciation of simplicity”.

“One must regard wealth beyond what is natural as if no more use than water to a container that is full to overflowing.”
(Both quotes pulled from De, B. A. (2000). The consolations of philosophy. New York: Pantheon Books).

I’m recommending living simply, within one’s means, rather than accumulating wealth. It’s crucial to have savings, but I agree with Montaigne about resisting the urge to chase money.

For more on the difference between wealth and money, I recommend this article by Paul Graham titled “How to Make Wealth”.

Paint peeling on the walls of the San Juan Bastista Cathedral in San Juan, Puerto Rico

Daydream about your death.

“Though they are finite and mortal, humans are gripped by illusions of the infinite — infinite pleasure and infinite pain.”

“[The wise] will start each day with the thought… Fortune gives us nothing we can really own… we live in the middle of things which have all been destined to die.” Consider a memento mori whether in the form of a card, an altar, or a tattoo if you’re so inclined. 

And those who are not afraid of anything should find something worth being afraid of.  

Here’s a mental exercise: call out superstitions in your head as they arise. “It is plain that there are no rewards for the dead, certainly there are no punishments either.” Then call out your fears. You may not be able to overcome all of your fears, but you want to go through the process.

“For I think I was once taught that a belief is like an impression stamped on our soul: the softer and the less resisting the soul, the easier it is to print anything on it.

Just as medicine confers no benefit if it dose not drive away physical illness so philosophy is useless if it does not drive away the suffering of the mind.”  (Montaigne again, same book).

None of my suggestions may help you and should you reject all of them then it may be wise to ignore me, study stoicism, or try therapy. I earnestly encourage these last three suggestions.